If you have ever attempted to quit smoking, there is a good chance you’re familiar with the notion of quitter’s remorse. You may recognize it as the occasional feeling of regret we have over making the decision to quit smoking and cause ourselves to suffer the healing process.
It is a feeling that leads us to envy those care free smokers, happily feeding their addiction without a worry in the world.
The remorse will often come after recalling what it was like to not bear the struggle that comes with quitting smoking. It is a feeling that leads us to envy those care free smokers, happily feeding their addiction without a worry in the world and no commitment to live up to.
Quitter’s remorse, I would say, is one of the biggest influences for relapse outside of the chemical dependency to nicotine.
Because the junkie brain feeds off it. It uses our fear and our doubt against us. If unrecognized, quitter’s remorse can lead a quitter to forget just how utterly crap being an addict actually was.
So, how do we overcome it?
The first step, is having a greater awareness. Being able to recognise the remorse and more importantly your junkie brain, empowers you to act against it.
If prepared, you can quickly rationalise your way to a different perspective. Consider using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to help achieve this.
Build your quit campaign around the desire to live a life free from nicotine addiction.
Another means to combat quitter’s remorse is to build your quit smoking campaign around a desire to live a life free from nicotine addiction; rather than the avoidance of long term health consequences.
Learn as much as you can about your addiction, because once you understand it, you can believe with confidence that all those feelings of remorse will quickly pass and eventually disappear. They are completely influenced by the disease of addiction.
In time you will likely become sympathetic to smokers, rather than envious. You will see the addict before you see the smoker.
Smokers are almost always envious of ex smokers.
It also pays to remind yourself that smokers are almost always envious of ex smokers. Most of the time, smokers feel helpless and often feel they have no hope of quitting.
So, if you are in the middle of a quit campaign and find yourself feeling remorseful, ask yourself, which do you want to be;
hopeful or hopeless.