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Overcoming Your Quitter’s Remorse.

Lady remorseful about quitting smoking.If you have ever attempted to quit smoking, there is a good chance you’re familiar with the notion of quitter’s remorse. You may recognize it as the occasional feeling of regret we have over making the decision to quit smoking and cause ourselves to suffer the healing process.

It is a feeling that leads us to envy those care free smokers, happily feeding their addiction without a worry in the world.

The remorse will often come after recalling what it was like to NOT bear the struggle that comes with quitting smoking. It is a feeling that leads us to envy those care free smokers, happily feeding their addiction without a worry in the world and no commitment to live up to.

Quitter’s remorse, I would say, is one of the biggest influences for relapse outside of the chemical dependency to nicotine.

Why?

Because the junkie brain feeds off it. It uses our fear and our doubt against us. If unrecognized, quitter’s remorse can lead a quitter to forget just how utterly crap being an addict actually was.

So, how do we overcome it?

The first step is having a greater awareness. Being able to recognise your junkie brain and its remorse over quitting, enables you to actively fight against it, and in turn, overpower it. If you are mentally prepared when the junkie brain strikes, you can quickly rationalise your way to a different perspective.

Consider using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to help achieve this.

Another angle of attack is to build your quit smoking campaign around a genuine desire to live a life free from nicotine addiction; rather than the avoidance of long term health consequences.

Learn as much as you can about your addiction! Once you understand it you can believe with confidence, all those feelings of remorse will quickly pass and eventually disappear. You will come to understand those feelings of loss or nagging regrets are completely influenced by the addiction and not your rational self.

In time you will become sympathetic toward smokers, rather than envious. You will see the addict before you see the smoker.

It also pays to remind yourself that smokers are almost always envious of ex smokers. Smokers often feel helplessly trapped by their addiction and hold little hope of quitting. I remember thinking that way as an addict.

At the end of the day, if you are in the middle of a quit campaign and find yourself feeling remorseful, ask yourself, which do you want to be;

hopeful or hopeless.


 

Comments

  1. annette smith says:

    i remember after aweek -ten days thinking “are you really sure you want to quit ?…if you quit for much longer that first cigarette will make you feel ill… do you really want to put yourself thro that ?”. i tussled with these thoughts for a few days, it was an on going argument my brain was having….. very strange feeling as felt “some-one else” was in my head, and wondered if i had become …..”unhinged” and needed putting into a funny farm…but like ALL the side effects i suffered, eventually passed, and when they do its another big achievement felt.

  2. I look back now and wonder who that other person was as well :)

    I think a lot of ex smokers feel the same way!

  3. Amy Brinkley says:

    I’m 10-11 days cold turkey now and for the past couple of days I have been thinking “I’m not sure i really wanted to do this, why did I choose now?” We’ll I’m 35, started smoking at 13 and with the exceptions of my pregnancys and a few months after their births I have been a smoker. I’m sick of buying them, sick of my kids riding my a** about quitting, just tired of it all….tired of a cigarette controlling my life. I know if I don’t make this work there is a good chance I will not see all my kids graduate, get married, or enjoy my grandkids. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who has had this quitters remorse, I have been feeling almost guilty for feeling this way. I also envy my friends who are social smokers, I realize now that they are addicted too, they are just in denial with their addiction. I’m so happy I found your website, it has given me strength when I needed it the most.

  4. Ubaida almoufti says:

    What is the cold turkey?

  5. HarriettUK says:

    I’m 7 days into my second (and hopefully last) attempt at quitting after 16 years of smoking. I’m really starting to feel the quitters remorse – “life was so much better when I smoked, I was so much happier etc etc” but I know that this is just deceptive nostalgia creeping in. It’s kind of like when you break up with a boyfriend/girlfriend, at first you feel free and then later you remember only the good things when you realise that being on your own comes with its own challenges. Quitting smoking is a break up and I was in a relationship with nicotine for 16 years (my longest relationship ever!). I am however determined not to go back to smoking, if only not to have to put myself through this all over again!!!

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