I doubt there has ever been a smoker genuinely happy to have failed at quitting smoking. Most successful quitters have suffered a relapse in the past, and most long term ex smokers know very intimately, the feelings of hopelessness and defeat that come with relapse.
The depression that comes with a failed quit smoking attempt can easily overwhelm the smoker, and leave them feeling as though genuine recovery is simply not possible. The fact is; relapse sucks and it sucks bad!
For those who do have such feelings, and who believe quitting smoking is based on impossible odds, I have this message:
There is a reason you will hear so many ex smokers exclaim the words “If I can, you can!” It is because your situation is no different to any ex smoker who has broken free of nicotine addiction. The disease is completely curable, even for you.
It doesn’t matter how long you have smoked, how many you smoke a day, where you live, where you work, what your financial situation is or what your home and family scenario is like. Nothing changes the fact that nicotine addiction is completely curable for every single human being on this planet.
So, why does it feel so impossible?
Because quitting smoking is hard. Very hard. It takes experience, knowledge, planning, self control, belief, support, desire, and above all else, a long term commitment to the healing process.
If you have relapsed, the first thing to accept is that you haven’t failed until you give up on giving up. Rather, you have gained powerful insights and a greater awareness of the healing process.
You have gained experience and more information. Information you can use to better prepare, better plan and better manage your next quit.
“You haven’t failed until you give up on giving up.”
If you have failed to quit smoking, consider answering the following questions before launching your next quit smoking attempt:
- What was my breaking point and what can I do next time to help me overcome it?
- What have I learnt about the quit process and is there anything I can do differently to make the overall process easier?
- Do I truly believe I can heal and eventually stop thinking about smoking?
- Do I recognise the junkie brain and have I maximised the support I have available to help combat it?
- Could I come up with a more detailed plan?
- Do I need to re evaluate my reasons for quitting?
- Could I benefit from professional therapy, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?
- Would a different method be more suitable to my scenario and needs?
- When should I set my next quit date?
If you need help, get it! Talk to other quitters and ex smokers as there are lots of tips and tricks you can use to get through the process. You don’t need to go it alone.
If you want freedom from a life of permanent need, a life of poor health and limited capability, you need to step up, make a new commitment and meet your demon head on!
STEP UP, MAKE A NEW COMMITMENT AND MEET YOUR DEMON HEAD ON.